Nov 9, 2012 | By Tim Stoddart

Why do People Cut Themselves?

Mental Health

A blurb I found on 100 Ways to Recover

Today I have been 2 months clean of self-harm. No one ever said it would be easy to recover but I’m making progress. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I feel better then ever knowing that there are people that care about me, that I am strong willed and that I am determined that i can do this. Everyone is worth it. Life does get better. I can promise you that.

Congratulations on 2 months clean and thanks so much for submitting this hopeful message! I hope you make it to three, four, five, six and more months, and that you are able to hold on to the motivation that you feel right now. Stay strong. You definitely can do this.

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Cutting is Addictive

It’s easy to forget that addiction is more than drinking and drugging, addictive behaviors are almost always symptoms of a bigger issue. There are many reasons as to why people cut themselves, it is important to understand that addiction is an over lapping issue and it can come out in many ways. One of these ways is cutting.

For most people, the concept of cutting can be confusing. People aren’t sure why people cut themselves or what purpose it serves. How many times have family members or friends or siblings asked “Why do they cut themselves? Are they trying to kill themselves?” I am not a medical professional or a therapist, I am just someone who has experience on the subject. So… lets get right to it – why do people cut themselves??

Release of Pain

Cutting is a very real stress reliever. It brings an element of tangibility to the pain the person feels. It’s hard to locate and treat internal emotional pain, but when cutters perform these rituals they are giving themselves something that can be seen and felt and treated. Cutting is very commonly correlated with addiction. The sharp and acute pain cutters feel releases an influx of endorphin’s to the brain. These endorphin’s actually can create a feeling of euphoria and pleasure. In a strange twist of fate, the “pain” cutters feel actually feels good. This feeling can be addictive just like a drug.

Cutting and Self Mutilation

Shortly after the “endorphin high” of cutting wears off, the afflicted cutter usually gets hit with feelings of guilt and shame. This turns into a downhill spiral and can lead to more questions as to why people cut themselves. Many times you will hear a cutter express feelings of low self esteem, and low self worth. These acts of self mutilation, in which the person feels so little and down about themselves, they want to purposely disfigure themselves our of an act of defiance and spite.

Impulse Control

Some doctors believe that cutting is an impulse control behavioral problem, and that the answer to why people cut themselves can be found in the chemistry of the brain. Cutting is often done impulsively and can be linked to a number of disorders such as depression, eating disorders, and of course addiction. There are dozens of studies and psychological theories about cutting, but I think first hand experience can provide some of the best insight of why people cut themselves.

Why do People Cut Themselves? – In Summary

This question may not ever be fully understood. The brain and the human behavior are very complicated, and it usually differs on a case by case basis. If you see or suspect someone is cutting or hurting themselves, there is usually a reason for it, and until that reason is brought to the forefront and dealt with, very rarely to we recovery from cutting.

What are your thoughts?

21 responses to “Why do People Cut Themselves?

  • This article is VERY accurate. I used to (and unfortunately still do…:/) self harm and though people do it for different reasons, this seemed very accurate. I’m trying to recover now and hearing some inspirational stories have helped so much:) thank you!

  • this article has helped me understand myself, I am 13 and I feel so worthless and the only way that I feel better is to cut my skin. it is lovely to know that some people don’t think it is crazy. I was so ashamed when my friends found out. 🙁

  • georgia boisjolie

    10 years ago

    I believe I did pretty much the same thing .. but I did it by shooting drugs .. I have scars all over my legs and can’t tell you how many times I’ve ended up in hospital .. its all a cry for help ..thank god o got help

  • I agree it is a RELEASE from the emotional pain and mental abuse I’ve been going through. Since the abuse is not PHYSICAL there is nothing to heal. Healing the insides is soo much harder than healing the outside. The outside heals on its own, automatically. The long term effects of mental and emotional abused continue on and on and on. I have been told I am ugly soo many times for soo long that I finally took an exacto and cut my face. Its like the guy in the “Divincy Code” that CHASTIZES himself..punishes himself for not being good enough. The physical pain takes away the emotional anguish for 1 minute of PEACE.

  • Shari Talamantes

    10 years ago

    I’m 53 yrs. old just want to say age does not stop this behavior. I have been a cutter always that I can remember.everything you stated is completely true. When the pain is so deep that even alcohol and drugs can’t make it go away, there is no where to go with the pain. It’s so deep it’s mind numbing. If you don’t do something now you will go insane and or die. When you cut,slice,tear and see the blood you physically feel the pain be released out of your body and mind! It’s survival! You can take a deep breath and and feel your body relax. And yes the guilt and shame the next day is horrible!!!! And you go on with your life until that pain is physically and mentally slicing your heart and its survival mode again.

  • I agree completely. I have written about the subject before too. I am an alcoholic and was cutting most when I was actively drinking so that fueled it, but part of it too is I have an anxiety and panic disorder and cutting would calm me down in panic attacks. Like you said the acute pain provides something tangible, and in the same way provides control. When my emotions were spiralling out of control during a panic attack and I couldn’t stop them and usually couldn’t even explain them, cutting gave me a pain that I could focus on and know that I was in control of because I intentionally caused. It is so messed up to most people but makes perfect sense to those who have experienced it.

  • I personally am not a cutter but I have dated ppl who are. The way it is explained her makes perfect sense to me. This is what I’ve always thought the reason for cutting was. You hurt inside and you don’t know why or have control over it, so why not do something that you have control over and also helps you forget about the other stuff. If only for a bit. When I was younger I would punch things when I was upset. Inanimate objects like walls, doors and cabinets. I would hit things that would cause me physical pain so I could focus on that instead of the other stuff. I think it is like cutting in a sense.

  • Paul James Secovnieh

    10 years ago

    I was so upset one day i thought i would punch out my car window. Instead i scratched/cut my arm/skin. I felt relief and didnt punch anythi.g avoiding a possible major injury. And since have cut again to avoid worse damage then a small amount of cutting. Am i crazy? Sure.Doessociety care much?ohh the cost of medical care. Why should i have to pay.

  • Malen Steptoe

    10 years ago

    This is a well written and great piece. One thing I would add to why people cut/self-harm, for me at least, it is regaining control of how and when I am in pain. I cant control the emotional pain but I can control the pain from self-harm/cutting.

  • My cutting has spiraled out of control. I tell myself every time that this will be my last, though i know very well that it won’t be..

    I cut for the enjoyment of it. The high that i experience during. I’m sure you can relate.

    I have been diagnosed with bipolar, but what i do know is that it’s not necessarily because of that. It’s all about the rush.

  • I choose cutting as a way to release the internal emotional pain that I was dealing with on a regular basis due to my ongoing depression. I felt the only way that l could cope with the mental anguish and emotional turmoil that I was trapped in, would only be released with self inflicted physical pain. I started off punching myself in the stomach repeatedly, then decided to cut myself, at which point was very short-lived, because l then turned to drugs to deal with my stress. Which then turned into a 20 year addiction. I am currently two and a half years clean and living recovery one day at a time. Looking back I’m not sure what could have helped me. l did not want help and I did not want to share my feelings, nor did l know how to share my feelings. I just wanted somebody that understood me, and I have finally found out in recovery. Through all the counseling I have been through I have never felt the connection that I have with the people inside the rooms of recovery and for that I am forever thankful.

  • Cutting defies all common sense to someone who does not have the disease of addiction. I experienced the family trauma of cutting behaviors with my niece a few years ago. She was being bullied at school, started cutting and was even suicidal. I am currently working with a small group of female teens who have parents who are in recovery from addiction. They do not see that cutting is an addiction that could be the bridge to using alcohol and drugs. As has been described above, the release that is felt from the self-inflicted pain is their high. Once the cuts are made, they are able to go on with their day, however, knowing that they cannot tell anyone. They carry their secret until someone close to them sees their wounds.
    It will not be long before there are support groups for this addiction. Teens hide their pain under long sleeve shirts and long pants. They need someone they can trust to share their secret with…someone who will give them attention and listen to “why” they are feeling bad inside.

  • Self-harm isn’t just cutting. It can be hitting, burning, hair-pulling, etc.

    I do agree that, like alcohol and drugs or eating disorders, that any type of self-harm means there’s
    a deeper problem.

    But because someone self-harms doesn’t automatically mean they will commit suicide or go onto drugs and alcohol. Or that they have some sort of mental illness. In fact, research has shown that many people who struggle with SI have no mental illness.

    And this issue doesn’t affect just teenagers. Self-harm can start in childhood, teenage years, or not even begin until adulthood. I’ve heard stories of people in their 50’s and older who still struggle with self-harm.

    And many people self-harm do not do so for attention.

  • my friend cuts but I tell her almost every time I see her or any my other friends cut i’m like why would u do that? I usually think does cutting ever make u more happy about life but I realized it doesn’t at all I haven’t cut before but i’m not saying if I ever have thought about it or not

  • Perfect Insanity

    5 years ago

    I started cutting myself because the girl i like I’m madly in love with, but she went with it for a while then told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship. I feel like its my fault so i cut myself, it eased the pain of the emotional hurt I was feeling. I felt like it was my fault that she doesn’t want to be with me. The emotional pain nearly drove me insane, and it did for about an hour afterwords… please leave a suggestion, anything helpful is welcome

    • same man I feel ya. I cut too bc people broke my heart and told me everything was my fault that my friend died in the shooting. i cut waaay to much but the advice I give is that just think of the people who care about you most and dont want you doing this to yourself. if you cut more the worse itll get and you could possibly end up in a mental hospital. feel better man I’ll pray for ya?

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