Raising kids is stressful. While “wine-Mom” culture is prominent on the interwebs and satirical memes circulate the internet, it’s a fact that many parents turn to a glass of wine or a drink at the end of the day. Though, there are some can take that drinking to another level. In fact, the National Survey on Drug Use and Health found that between 2009 and 2014, approximately 10 percent of American children lived in homes where at least one parent had an alcohol use disorder.
“I Have to Focus On When The Win Is.”
Though, Dax Shepard and his wife Kristen Bell opened up about raising their two daughters, 4-year-old Delta Bell and 6-year-old Lincoln and how Shepard’s 15 years of recovery has impacted their family.
“We vacation almost exclusively with three other families who all have kids, and certainly at night, I’m super jealous of them because I’m like, fuck yeah I would love to drink something that turned down the volume of everyone in this house,” Shepard explained. “So I’m a little bit jealous in the evenings.”
Though, with a booze-free lifestyle comes hangover-free mornings.
“At 6:45 when we’re all up, I’m like, Oh I’m crushing right now. I feel great. And they’re miserable. And those voices are three times as loud with a hangover,” he said, laughing. “So I just have to focus on when the win is, which is always the morning.”
A New Routine
Bell said that for her, ending the day with alcohol just isn’t a part of her routine. Her “wine” is Netflix and cuddling Shepard, she said. “It’s OK if your kids are stressful and annoying. It’s OK to take time for yourself,'” Bell said. “But to me, that doesn’t necessarily ever mean alcohol.”
Though, Bell drinks from time to time, she noted that the parenting culture of drinking isn’t part of her daily life.
“The wine meme is a very funny thing. I suppose I take it as generalized ‘kids are stressful.’ I personally don’t have wine every day, but my wine is Netflix and cuddling with my husband or our date night,” said Bell.
Though, The Good Place actress, noted that she unwinds in other ways – that don’t involve alcohol.
“So, the wine memes, for me, they’re all-encompassing in the truth that they signify, ‘Keep in mind that you’re a grownup. It’s OK in case your children are worrying and annoying. It’s OK to take time for your self,’” Bell added. “However to me, that doesn’t essentially ever imply alcohol.”
“I Lost My Privilege of Drinking.”
For Shepard, getting sober was vital. In a 2012 interview with Playboy, the actor revealed he was a heavy smoker, drinker, and drug user from ages 18 to 29. “I just loved to get fucked-up—drinking, cocaine, opiates, marijuana, diet pills, pain pills, everything,” he noted in the interview. Though, 15 years ago, the actor decided to turn his life around.
Today, Bell reports neither her nor her husband feel pressure to drink when friends or family do.
“The good thing is that my husband has done most of his sobriety work, and if you’re really doing the work, you hopefully one day, aren’t triggered by people drinking around you,” she explained. “Dax has never been triggered by people drinking around him. In fact, our friends are usually sensitive to it, and they look to me like, ‘Is it OK if I pour myself a drink?’ And Dax will notice and say, ’Oh no listen, I lost my privilege of drinking, but you didn’t lose your privilege. I think you should have a drink.′ So I’m very lucky there.”
As supportive of a couple as Shepard and Bell are, this isn’t their first time opening up about each other in interview and social media. Just last year, Bell posted a tribute to commemorate her husbands 14 years of sobriety on Instagram.