No one gets sober in hopes that they can lead a boring, mundane life.
Some people may be looking for more of a peaceful life in sobriety, but it’s safe to say that a big fear many people have when entering recovery is a fear of being bored.
We are people who love excitement, danger, and challenges. I have always had dreams and aspirations and as the new year approaches, I reflect back on the times when I didn’t have a dime. I am so grateful to be where I am at today, yet I still have lot’s of growing to do.
I love my sobriety because it gives me a chance to challenge myself. I now have the chance to do anything! The possibilities are endless and I have my recovery to thank for that.
If you are just getting sober, understand that it is okay to take some time to just relax and maybe work your steps and get some time in between you and your last drink. But for those more spiritually fit, here is a step by step guide to help you accomplish your dreams in sobriety.
1 – Have a Clear Intention to Grow
Some people get sober and look to take it easy. Maybe sit back and find some peace in this crazy world. There is nothing wrong with that.
There are other’s who feel incomplete. Addiction has left this person feeling as though they have underachieved. If you fall into this category of people, your first step is a mental exercise.
You can never assume that with time comes growth. Growth is optional, and growth is intentional. Growing in your profession, in your marriage and in your recovery is an active process. The first step is to decide for yourself that you are willing to do the work necessary for growth.
2 – The Time is Now
In addition, so many of us have lived our lives and made decisions based on fear.
Fear will keep us stuck and stagnant. Fear is the biggest deterrent of growth. Fear wants us to stay still, to avoid taking risks and to take the easy way.
Too many of us are stuck in the mindset of “now is not the right time.”
There is no right time. The right time is now. Don’t get stuck behind the 8-ball.
The longer you wait to do something that should be done now, the greater the odds are you will not do it. Do it now, do not wait until you think you are “ready.” Ready never comes and you lose opportunities waiting to act.
3 – Be Prepared to Make Mistakes and Deal With Set Backs
This is just a part of life.
In my own recovery, I have found myself having good days and bad days. Good years and bad years. I can go months at a time feeling as if I am on top of the world. I wake up early, I exercise regularly, I attend my meetings and I feel spiritually fit.
In the same respect, I have gone through months of deep dark depression. I have had periods where, for whatever reason, things weren’t going my way.
That is okay. What is important is that you don’t drink and you don’t use. As long as you stay sober a day at a time, you can always deal with the setback or mini failures in your life. A setback is not the end of the world. No one said it would be easy, but I tell you right now it will be worth it.
4 – Stay Motivated
With these temporary setbacks, it can be so easy to give up.
Motivation is not something that you have, it is something you do. Much like gratitude, motivation is an action word. You stay motivated by moving. Little by little, if you keep chipping away at things you will see the progress of your work start to accumulate.
This is how one stays motivated.
As addicts, we crave instant gratification. We are great starters. We get new ideas and we get excited and we work as fast and as hard as we can for two weeks. When we realize that our ideas are going to require some real hours and some hard work, it is common for us to “move on to the next big thing.”
We have to kick this bad habit. We must learn to make a plan and stay motivated on that plan. Little by little, we can accomplish our goals.
5 – Stay Humble
I have seen this happen so many times.
When we get sober, life opens up to us. Suddenly we are free to make money, to travel, to get some nice things and meet new people. Sometimes it happens so fast that it can be overwhelming.
If you follow these steps, you will find success. You will start making money and you will have the freedom that you may not be accustomed to.
You must not let this get to your head. The second you put the success above your recovery is the second that you will lose it.
Don’t forget that your sobriety is the reason why you have been given the opportunity to chase these dreams in the first place. As long as you stay humble, you can continue to grow and live a happy prosperous life.
Humility is a badge of honor. Many times we see brash and confident men and women in the media or in our circle of friends. We think that we should be more like them, as if arrogance and confidence hold some kind of recipe for success. This is not the case.
The men and women who remain humble are the men and women who maintain and continue to be successful while the others slowly fade away.
Humility is also a very attractive quality. We are drawn to those people who have the humble and quiet confidence in them. Where we can see through the energy they transmit that they believe in themselves but don’t find it necessary to tell the world about their accomplishments. That’s the kind of man I strive to be.
Stay humble and you will remain balanced.
6 – Keep Recovery First
This could be number one and number five and all of them in between.
The only reason you have been put in a position to achieve your goals is because you are sober. Never lose sight of this. Your priority should always be your recovery.
Without your recovery, you would have no chance at the rest. Your family, your significant other, your job and your happiness are all dependent upon your sobriety.
If you are an addict in the same way that I am an addict, then recovery should always come first.
You Deserve Happiness…
I have seen many people come into recovery and be afraid or intimidated at the notion of success. Thinking of having nice things or a comfortable living makes us uncomfortable. Sometimes we have convinced ourselves that we are not deserving of everything that life has to offer.
Don’t believe this lie. You are beautiful. You are good enough. You are deserving. There is nothing wrong with wanting to travel, or wanting to make a lot of money, or wanting to start your own business. Whatever it is that you dream of becoming, you can do it. If you stay humble, stay sober and continue to give back, then you can truly accomplish anything.
I believe in you.